亲爱的溏心：你好。我喜欢上了一个女生，而且可以感觉到她对我也有同样的感觉，本想这样下去也挺好的，但是今年1月份她突然回家了，并且说家里已经安排好让她在那边读书。我知道了以后难过得每天都失眠，直到3月份才稍微缓过来。这时她又突然回来了，当时我除了高兴之外没有其他感觉，也就没多问她为啥又回来了。过了几天，我开始发现她比走之前变了很多，总是在躲我，不管是我还是朋友帮我提出见面的请求时，她都拒绝。直到有一天我问她的发小儿才知道，那次回家不只是因为转学，家里还帮她安排了相亲，并且决定在四年后结婚。我听了脑子一片空白，鼓起勇气问她对那个相亲对象是不是真心的，她说：不喜欢又怎样，我也没办法，就算不是这个我家还会帮我安排上百次，如果和你离开的话那我家这几十年的基业就完的差不多了。我真的不知道该怎么办了，不可能眼睁睁地看着她迫着进行这种所谓的“婚姻”，带走她的话又不能不顾及到家族利益，很纠结。

写给原：你好。第一次被读者叫原，我有点儿激动。看了你的信，我更激动。现在的年轻人什么时候变得这么有责任感了？回想那古老的封建社会，深宅大院里但凡有点儿个性的小姐无不热衷于冲破藩篱去呼吸裹挟着原始气息的清新空气，甚至不惜葬送整个门楣的脸面，而在封建早已成为糟粕、自由甚至都开始误导人民今天，我们社会上还能找到这样的年轻人，为“家族利益”把自己给纠结成这样，更可贵的是，他为的是别人家的家族利益。

I just can't understand, what's the relationship between your family interests and you? You like her, go chase after her is enough. How to choose is her affair. However, as I see it, it's actually she who has made a good choice already. It's you who are unwilling to accept but lack the courage to face fate head-on. Your life is left with only one word - "confused".

I always think that in love, the most sorrowful thing isn't being unable to be together but being deeply immersed in your own world, dancing alone while imagining yourself composing a beautiful tragic love song. Such men are of no use to women.

After reading this issue of magazine, I suggest you first ask her clearly how much she likes you. I don't really trust a girl who hasn't experienced any stimulation yet but can remain so calm when facing reality. Moreover, I hope you won't waste time on someone else's excitement anymore; even if you want to help her out, at least try to integrate into their circle before having any real influence.

It seems that with your understanding and experience of family interests and marriage as well as your view of the world are shallow and ridiculous for these students who have arranged multiple blind dates or marriages without considering their feelings.

So many times we've seen people get caught up in relationships without realizing what they're getting themselves into until it's too late; they become dependent on others' validation rather than finding self-worth within themselves.

In this era where freedom often leads people astray and misleads them about what true happiness should look like...