如果说男人是追求的动物，那么女人就是珍惜的存在。因此，女人是珍惜守住拥有的爱；男人则是追求占领女人的心。所以，在婚姻的世界里，很多男人选择的是最喜欢的人，而很多女人一般选择最喜欢自己的那个人。

不要怀疑，这种选择似乎是上天早已安排好的命运。那个被风吹过的失恋夏天，我想了很久离开北京回了家乡，父亲开车带我去许多地方。在车里放着《青花瓷》，依然是我深情的歌词：天青色等烟雨而我在等你。我不忍让父亲看我伤痕累累，只得若无其事哼着。那时候，满脑子都是曾经的情人诀别后的话。她说：这些日子我有些时候会想起大学我们一起组团看《色戒》，会想起当时你为了追我用大喷绘把整个宿舍楼都盖住。她说：其实你写的诗我都读了，不敢想象你以后会为谁写诗。

很多她说……

I remember that day when it was raining heavily, she told me directly that we would never have a future together and that I was just a friend to her. Unexpectedly, I still believed in her words and got sick after the rain. Then I texted back: Since you like me, why did you say those harsh words? Are you playing with me? She said: At that time, those words were all taught by my boyfriend; he said if you truly love me, you will be able to withstand the test and come back to chase after me.

I suddenly didn't know how to respond; damn it! If only I had been brave enough to tell her off. In the end she said: I admit that I like you more than anyone else, but sorry; these days I still want to make things clear although there are so many thoughts of longing but in the end I choose him because he loves me more…… All nonsense! But instead of saying this four-character phrase out loud, all I could do was choose to leave.

Perhaps she chose someone who loved her more than anyone else; someone who could give her a better future. Life itself is not wrong; nor do I blame her for anything except perhaps being as stubborn as a river mixed with mud flowing forward courageously without any hesitation.

Do any of your experiences resonate with this story?

It's similar when choosing between two cameras or two people – often we go for what we've always wanted but couldn't quite get hold of until now.

The choices men make about women are much like their choices about cameras – they usually pick what they most admire or desire at first sight.

In our marriage stories too...

Last year during Chinese New Year celebrations at home town's wedding ceremony for my primary school classmate Xiao Mei (also known as Nine Lady), an unexpected turn of events took place involving an old flame from high school days named Xiao Chen (a.k.a., Little Brother). The event left us both feeling confused yet amused while trying hard not keep our true feelings hidden behind smiles on our faces amidst tears streaming down them...

Afterward, Nine Lady spoke candidly about the reasons behind their separation - "the person" who caught my eye wasn't willing to understand how much pain they caused others through his actions even though deep down inside he knew right from wrong... It felt almost impossible asking myself whether such individuals truly deserve happiness in life...

We then parted ways due solely because love wasn't strong enough within us both—neither one dared take responsibility nor show courage facing challenges ahead

And so goes life itself—a world where love isn’t won over distance nor time alone but also lost through reluctance & fear... Every step taken towards braving such situations makes every relationship worth cherishing!

To conclude:

Who does one ultimately end up with—their lover or someone who genuinely loves them?

Love requires nurturing and effort beyond counting each small sacrifice made along the way thus many opt for “loving themselves” above all else

Yet there’s no guarantee either choice brings lasting happiness—either receiving roses or enduring heartbreaks serve equally vital roles as symbols in believing blindly into something greater than ourselves

Thus regardless if it turns out being side-by-side forever with someone loving us back or simply adoring them deeply… Love remains eternal & timeless